If you lower your car without camber correctin plates then the lower you go, the more negative camber you get. That is an undisputable FACT.
Anything over 2degrees negative camber WILL create inside tyre wear - that also is a FACT.
If you lower an e30 by 2" you get 3 degrees negative camber - this also is a FACT. (A 2" drop equates to 3.5" clearance from the ground by the front CAB)
So if you are not experiencing inside tyre wear on your rear tyres it is because you have either used camber adjusters to remove the camber or you have not gone low enough to have over 2 degrees of negative camber.
Inside tyre wear is not a problem, it just shortens your tyre life by a couple of months - if you don't mind this, it's fine.
You are right - handling is freaken awesome although next time I will buy shortened shocks and stiffer springs as I feel the setup could be stiffer. the H&R's are stiffer than the dobis, and so I'll probably get shortened Bilsteins and H&R's.
Koni adjustables are good as is the Dinan stuff but only from what I've heard - I haven't had personal experience with these.