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MrElussive said:
I agree with Sean, I laughed at the things you said, Lisha. These are all basics that should be imprinted in men's brains from day one, but then again, that would only make things harder for those of us who already know what's up.

Sean, I think the key is to treat the girl as a friendly acquaintance. The times it always worked best for me were when I was just not trying at all, and I was just being myself. There's a guy for every girl and a girl for every guy (casually speaking)...just putting yourself out there and going to as many places as you can, and meeting as many people as you can will eventually land you someone. IMO, it is all up to the woman. If she likes you and wants you to make a move, she will let you know with gentle signals. Don't go out hoping to get laid or hoping to get a girl...let her come to you...timing and the universe will balance itself out in your favor on more than one occasion.

Personally, the problem I have is that most women around here just want one-night-stands...I want a girlfriend and the ones that I find as a potential just already have a boyfriend or something else going on, but I have no feelings for any of them, so I quickly move from one to the next (as opposed to what Justin did).
I think the key is not to give up, live your life, go out as much as possible and be yourself, and eventually you just find someone. Sitting at home and praying for an angel never got anybody anywhere.
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Very well said... That was my experience....
I was a slow learner.... One thing that I've found to be true is " anyone can get laid" but the best relationships I've encountered, had a foundation built on getting to know each other first. (friends first, then knock the bottom out of it)
 
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Lisha, I hate to say it, but MrReed is right. Most guys do not have the kind of friendship with a girl or woman where doing that actually hurts the friendship (the kind of friendship I was talking in my thread in the other forum). Women have the mentality where they pick and choose the guys they want to have sex with and guys have the mentality that we should never turn the opportunities down.
 
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yo it really is SO hard when you're at a public place, to introduce yourself and start having a conversation and shit, even with alcohol in your system.

I've been going to my local Dave & Buster's once in a while....I cannot believe how much of a girl paradise it is, and it should make it easier to talk to them since you're just drinking and playing videogames, which is something that guys like.
 
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Well life has been going ok for me. Moving on does take alot of time I have found out that the hard way. I see her with guy and yes it does hurt to see them hanging out but they arent dating yet. I talked to the guy and told him Im not mad at him at all. I told I was sad for her actions. They arent even dating which is funny in my opinion since hes scared of having his heart broken like mine... but I know hes scared of me.... for some reason I dotn know why... For all your help guys, I will post a thread of my best photography work that I was assigned to do as assignment.
 
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a good looking, confident woman is the hardest woman to approach for most guys because it involves to much thinking....we instinctively know that the normal BS intro doesnt apply so most are either to scared to try or dont want to put in the work....a shame really and i have to say that i have been guilty of the former reason on more than one occasion and then regret it when they end up getting played by some A-hole.....
 
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hey man i kno how your feeling my ex i thought was great, but once i broke up with her and looked at her as not a girlfriend i realized she wasent that great had how badly she treated me. thats what i think you should do you should step back and look at the whole picture man. look for a girl who really really cares about you this girl just shounds like all the other highschool girls. just step back take a look at her and the other girls and look for a girl who really cares trust me this girl is not worth the trouble in the end you will realize "why did i try so hard for a person who dosent really care?"

hope i helped, any questions pm me ill tell you whats up
 
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Wow, nice one Lisha. Some of us guys are extremely shy and it is hard (almost impossible for us to break the ice). There is no place and no time in public where a guy isn't willing to talk to a woman. Sorry to hear that he was married.
 
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MrElussive said:
Wow, nice one Lisha. Some of us guys are extremely shy and it is hard (almost impossible for us to break the ice). There is no place and no time in public where a guy isn't willing to talk to a woman. Sorry to hear that he was married.
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I know I'm shy as hell, plus I don't have enough confidence even though at this point I should. I have fine self confidence except when I'm like hey she's cute/nice/whatever, then I turn into like a middleschooler who ripped their pants at school [rofl] But oh well, I'm too busy for that shit, plus the e34 is getting a turbo and no girl is taking away from parts money. I'm young, I'll spend money on a woman in a few more years.
 
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Hey guys, well hers the update on my life... *sigh* well been tough moving on indeed. She has changed alot as a person. I can never think of her the same. Her bf was rude to me. She does things with him when they see me walking throught the halls in school. They will purposley make out in front of me whebn they see me or she'll grab his ass.... makes me wanna puke.... Her myspace has changed and all she does is brag about her bf and talk about him to even my closest friends... *sigh* I havent talked to her in a long time now. It hurts but Im moving on. Since Im on Spring Break for two weeks, Im taking more pictures to sell for money. I made 300 bucks the other week jsut selling some of my work. But yeah, been tough but I knwo Im the better one. Some day I'll find someone jsut as pretty as her or better but at least has a true kibnd heart and really cares for me. Well if you wnat ot see how she has changed her myspace....

www.myspace.com/ehaffa
 
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biaye?? ^
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I am guessing that is slang for bia-bia, bee-yatch("The best damn sports show period" dictionary)...but i could be mistaken.

All this "young and the restless" high-school stuff is actually a little bit humorous to me. This occurence is just a teensy-tiny, speck of a instance in the timeline of your existence dude! Man.....if you came over here for just two weeks you would forget ALLLLL of that stuff.....I put everything on that.....
1. Think of how many things there are to take pics of over here!
2. They have young photographers(kids your age) in the clubs taking pictures of the nightlife and handing out cards promoting events.
3. There a women that look 100 no 1000 times better than her AND have things going for them AND their maturity level is much higher.......

in my experience here...an american 18yr old female has about the same maturity level as a 16yr. old over(a LOT of them graduate from high school at that age depending on the school) here in Germany...dont get me wrong they have fun...but much of this childish high school behavior doesnt happen...instead you get that tweeny behavior....LOL
 
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