I need your help everyone its a girl relationship problem... I have to post it here..
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ok Lisha i need some clarification.....are you talking about shoes we tried on in the store and "didnt buy" ONLY? Or shoes that we have bought and got bored of.....or shoes that last and last until the fall apart? Or just an overall number....
p.s. Not to mention italian, british, german, american, Zayre's bo-bo's(Roses for some of you-if you remember that Dept. Store...LOL)
p.s. Not to mention italian, british, german, american, Zayre's bo-bo's(Roses for some of you-if you remember that Dept. Store...LOL)
adrean8j said:
I knew that and everything i said before was in code and very pertinent to my situation! ![[hihi]](/images/smilies/icon_smile_hihi.gif "Hi Hi [hihi]")
Well i have been single in my adult life for the last 13.5 years....and i am certainly no priest...but i have tried on many types of shoes living in Europe for 75% of that time! Just havent found my queen yet! (Princess Leia was my childhood crush...LOL...it was the first non "G" rated movie my parents allowed us to see IN the movie theater...LOL)
www.myspace.com/ehaffa
This is her myspace.... unfortuantaely from what people have told me... she became depressed right after Valentines Day and I dont know know why. she wont tell anyone and she recently posted a blog about waht going on right now... shes been depressed.... Half of the pics you see on hers are taken by me... now you know how my work is in photography...
This is her myspace.... unfortuantaely from what people have told me... she became depressed right after Valentines Day and I dont know know why. she wont tell anyone and she recently posted a blog about waht going on right now... shes been depressed.... Half of the pics you see on hers are taken by me... now you know how my work is in photography...
Those pics are pretty damn good. I like the way you catch moments instead of taking "cheeese" pictures.
Can't really give you advice with the girl, all I can say is what others have mentioned already. Sadly it seems that if you let her be, a relationship won't grow out of it but if you persue her too much, the possible friendship will be ... well, not possible (and obviously any hopes for anything more will be out of the picture).
Keep us posted and have a good night.
Can't really give you advice with the girl, all I can say is what others have mentioned already. Sadly it seems that if you let her be, a relationship won't grow out of it but if you persue her too much, the possible friendship will be ... well, not possible (and obviously any hopes for anything more will be out of the picture).
Keep us posted and have a good night.
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jcz,
A little late replying to your post, but I can't resist.
wow it takes a lot of guts to post your personal stuff on here, why did you do it? Are you venting or looking for answers? Seem to be venting to me, and that's ok. There has been some very good direction given to you on here and you seem to just keep doing what you feel... That's ok too. I used to always do the same thing, now that I am older I really do seek the advice of older men, and I find the information to be valuable. And yes I said men, I'm a man and I need a man's perspective. One thing to think about, you are asking members of a BMW Board for relationship advice. If a guy is succesful enough to drive a BMW he probably has had some success with women too! lol
So back to your post, you mentioned that her friend told her that the picture thing was wierd. Sounds like she got hooked by her friends opinion, and did not stand up for you.
You know her friend sounds like the girl on American Beauty, young, insecure, and probably jealous.
Now that I think about it that movie is great example for your situation. One Ricky Fits did not care about how other people viewed him. He was ok with himself. Are you?
When I was your age I went through all of this kind of stuff, I'm glad that I did because it sure was a good education.
In your first post you said " I just want her to know who I am" I can relate! I used to want girls to like me and know who I am and all of that stuff, you know what I learned? After years of failure I finally figured out that if she is the one she is going to like everything about me, and if she's not there isn't a damn thing I can do to make it work. So I might as well just keep it light and have fun. Easy Come Easy Go. Girls find this kind of attitude irresistable!
Realizing this helped me dramatically. It helped me to have more fun because I wasn't wasting energy worrying all the time. I could relax and be myself.
It helped me to lighten up. GIRLS LOVE GUYS WHO KEEP IT LIGHT! they don't like puss-boys who are needy. Trust me I'm a reformed Puss-boy!
So all of this drama with this girl is up to you. Once again " all of this drama is up to you!" One you can keep giving her all of your power, and chase her around " which will be like trying to swim up a waterfall" or you can take your power back and have fun. When girls find a guy that makes his own decisions they are automatically attracted. For some strange reason my gut always told me that girls are looking for a nice guy. A guy that would worship them. Not True. Respectful, yes. My gut was always my worst enemy. most of that stuff was fear based anyways. control and fear. girls love a guy that is fearless and uncontrolling... a guy that is ok with himself.....
Think about this, you are wanting this girl to like you, and if she doesn't you feel hurt.
Fact: if she isn't into you it's ok... It's not personal, either she will think you are Big Cock Daddy or she won't. There are tons of single women in this world that will love everything about you, your artistic abilities, style, personality, sense of humor, and that you drive a 330 lol. Hopefully in that order.
I hope that I haven't offended you, I also hope that something I posted on her helps...
I just realized something, this whole girl thing is a wonderful opportunity for you to grow. If you start to try different behavior with this girl, (kinda like an experiment) you will surprise yourself at who you are and what you can do. Be grateful for this girl, she is a teacher for you wether you realize it or not.
P.S.
I showed the picture of you and the girl , to my fiancee and her friend and shared a little of your post.
There comments were that you were way cuter than her, you had nice eyes, and your style of clothing was way better than hers.
P.S.S. True Players in life and business keep things light, they have the attitude easy come easy go. Probably because they know that no matter what life deals them they will be ok. They can also differentiate between taking something personal or taking care of themselves.
[driving2]
A little late replying to your post, but I can't resist.
wow it takes a lot of guts to post your personal stuff on here, why did you do it? Are you venting or looking for answers? Seem to be venting to me, and that's ok. There has been some very good direction given to you on here and you seem to just keep doing what you feel... That's ok too. I used to always do the same thing, now that I am older I really do seek the advice of older men, and I find the information to be valuable. And yes I said men, I'm a man and I need a man's perspective. One thing to think about, you are asking members of a BMW Board for relationship advice. If a guy is succesful enough to drive a BMW he probably has had some success with women too! lol
So back to your post, you mentioned that her friend told her that the picture thing was wierd. Sounds like she got hooked by her friends opinion, and did not stand up for you.
You know her friend sounds like the girl on American Beauty, young, insecure, and probably jealous.
Now that I think about it that movie is great example for your situation. One Ricky Fits did not care about how other people viewed him. He was ok with himself. Are you?
When I was your age I went through all of this kind of stuff, I'm glad that I did because it sure was a good education.
In your first post you said " I just want her to know who I am" I can relate! I used to want girls to like me and know who I am and all of that stuff, you know what I learned? After years of failure I finally figured out that if she is the one she is going to like everything about me, and if she's not there isn't a damn thing I can do to make it work. So I might as well just keep it light and have fun. Easy Come Easy Go. Girls find this kind of attitude irresistable!
Realizing this helped me dramatically. It helped me to have more fun because I wasn't wasting energy worrying all the time. I could relax and be myself.
It helped me to lighten up. GIRLS LOVE GUYS WHO KEEP IT LIGHT! they don't like puss-boys who are needy. Trust me I'm a reformed Puss-boy!
So all of this drama with this girl is up to you. Once again " all of this drama is up to you!" One you can keep giving her all of your power, and chase her around " which will be like trying to swim up a waterfall" or you can take your power back and have fun. When girls find a guy that makes his own decisions they are automatically attracted. For some strange reason my gut always told me that girls are looking for a nice guy. A guy that would worship them. Not True. Respectful, yes. My gut was always my worst enemy. most of that stuff was fear based anyways. control and fear. girls love a guy that is fearless and uncontrolling... a guy that is ok with himself.....
Think about this, you are wanting this girl to like you, and if she doesn't you feel hurt.
Fact: if she isn't into you it's ok... It's not personal, either she will think you are Big Cock Daddy or she won't. There are tons of single women in this world that will love everything about you, your artistic abilities, style, personality, sense of humor, and that you drive a 330 lol. Hopefully in that order.
I hope that I haven't offended you, I also hope that something I posted on her helps...
I just realized something, this whole girl thing is a wonderful opportunity for you to grow. If you start to try different behavior with this girl, (kinda like an experiment) you will surprise yourself at who you are and what you can do. Be grateful for this girl, she is a teacher for you wether you realize it or not.
P.S.
I showed the picture of you and the girl , to my fiancee and her friend and shared a little of your post.
There comments were that you were way cuter than her, you had nice eyes, and your style of clothing was way better than hers.
P.S.S. True Players in life and business keep things light, they have the attitude easy come easy go. Probably because they know that no matter what life deals them they will be ok. They can also differentiate between taking something personal or taking care of themselves.
[driving2]
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Fall for what? I dont think he meant a guy going up to a woman and saying "He babe look at my bimmer, you should get with me" ![[rolleyes]](/images/smilies/rolleyes.png "Roll Eyes (Sarcastic) [rolleyes]")
. I think he meant something along the lines of us being capable enough to pick one of the best marques in the world for our daily drivers then maybe our experiences and decision making skills towards the opposite sex are on par...no more, no less.......
and just for clarification----a LOT of women are that shallow...well at least in the states.....
. I think he meant something along the lines of us being capable enough to pick one of the best marques in the world for our daily drivers then maybe our experiences and decision making skills towards the opposite sex are on par...no more, no less.......and just for clarification----a LOT of women are that shallow...well at least in the states.....